FORGIVENESS

When we forgive, we let go.

Let go of our, anger, hate, resentment, fear, and pain.

Forgiveness is then an act of self-love.

Yes, this act of love is outward because you are no longer holding these things against the other. But it is first and act of loving inward because you must allow yourself to stop holding these things.

To put them down.

To let go, and not pick them up again.

There is no ‘walking away’ needed. Walking away plies that you have not fully agreed to never pick the up again, because you could return to them.

Let these things cease to exist.

The experience still exists, but these things, these attachments are forgiven and so dissolve. As if they cannot continue now that they are no longer feeding off you. No longer holding space.

You become free of these things.

In love you find forgiveness. In forgiveness you find freedom

Mantra for Forgiveness:

Love is forgiveness, so I shall forgive (me/them/that thing/time)

ATTACHMENT

Attachments are the cause of fears.

Fears are like fingers, they give us the strength to grip attachments.

Acceptance and understanding release this grip one finger (fear) at a time.

Balance is found when attachments are released because we are no longer bound one way or another by fears.

Learn more about releasing fears and begin a practice of non-attachment with Yoga for Balance

GUILT

On Guilt:

You cannot change what has happened. All you can do is be honest and truthful now.

Guilt is the result of attachments … Attachments to historical thought patterns, experiences, or ways of being. Guilt always lives in the past, and therefore keeps us stuck in the past.

Recognize that, though these thought patterns, experiences and ways of being are very real, they do not need to continue existing.

Consider a tree. Each year it grows leaves, flowers and seeds, and then drops them all. It lets go of all the leaves, flowers and seeds it was holding to make way for new ones. With this change, it is never quite the same tree each year; each season. It is still honestly and truly a tree.

You are like the tree. Your thought patterns, experiences and ways of being are like the leaves, flowers and seeds. There is no rule saying you must hold onto them from season to season; year to year. In fact, it is much more natural to let go.

Guilt occurs when we don’t let them go. We actually stunt ourselves from being honest and true to our Inner Self when hold onto these attachments.

Our Inner Self is our most authentic loving self. Our Outer Self is where we hold onto attachments. By meditating on being true and honest to our Inner Self, we can connect it with our Outer Self and two things will happen. First, we will be able to let go of the things that cause us guilt. Second, we will reflect our Inner Self through our Outer Self (through our thoughts, interactions, and ways of being).

When we reflect authentic love through our thoughts, interactions and ways of being, we are no longer our historical selves. We are no longer stuck in the past. We walk free of guilt knowing that we have grown and changed, and will not repeat those same thoughts, experiences or ways of being.

Meditation Thoughts:

Where do I feel guilt?

I can change the thoughts, actions, or behaviours that caused this guilt.

Being true and honest to myself will help me let go.

UGLY

Something to consider when seeking what is real or true…

The truth is not always pretty or pleasant. Sometimes it is ugly and hard and unpleasant. Do not shy away from the truth because it has an undesirable appearance to yourself or others.

You do not owe anyone a justification for the way reality or the truth is.

You do not owe yourself a justification for the way reality or the truth is.

Let it be.

Truth is not defined by beauty or angelic appearances. If it is ugly, let it be ugly. Do not apologize for it or excuse it.

Practice Non-Violence

Restricting, restraining, denying, or rejecting what is real or true because you perceive it, or worry others will perceive it as ugly is a form of violence towards yourself and the universe (that reality which exists beyond all illusion).

Fear of ugly breeds this form of violence. Our fear stems from our attachment to the assumption that to be good, a thing must also be pleasant or nice or pretty.

But the truth is good. And the truth can also be ugly.

If inclined to restrict, restrain, deny or reject because a truth or reality is ugly, try meditating on your attachment to the assumption that to be good, a thing must also be pleasant or nice or pretty.

Meditation questions:

Why do I feel this way?

Can I let go of this attachment?

I can let what is real or true be ugly

KINDNESS

Kindness can be a difficult thing to cultivate. Often the qualities of kindness (being gentle, giving, considerate and caring) are also viewed as weaknesses. We fear being weak, or having others take advantage of us, so we limit when and where we show kindness.

Though we may not realize it, the unkindness we show to others stems from our unkindness towards ourselves.

To cultivate kindness we must first be kind towards ourselves. This kindness means we must be considerate of our personal boundaries, and care about our own wellbeing.

When we establish personal boundaries based on kindness towards ourselves, it becomes difficult for others to take advantage of us. Then we can show kindness to others without the fear of it being a weakness.

We can be strong in our kindness.

Mantras for kindness:

I am kind.

I accept that I am kind.

Kindness is not my weakness, it is my strength.